Over the last few months, I’ve been working closely with individuals and acne communities to learn about all the things they’ve tried and what worked and what didn’t.
What I discovered was far more alarming than just failed acne solutions. Every time a product failed, a person felt failure.
This is insanely detrimental to your mental health because it causes them to feel frustration, anger, and lose hope that their situation will never get better. They basically give up.
The fear of never being able to solve their acne problems and the sadness they feel forcing themselves to accept to who they believe they are (not who they really are), ugly, unattractive, and unworthy of their own self love.
I read so many individual stories, and comments about how it lowered their self-esteem, and how they wished they could be someone else. Just to feel what it’s like to see their own bare face in the mirror, but can’t because its behind the painful mask of acne. Afraid to wear their bare skin in public without hours of preparation of hiding acne and scars.
This desperation to just be themselves inside and out was emotionally difficult to read. What was most alarming was many said they hated themselves and wanted to die.
Adults with acne handled it more maturely, but managing their skin problems becomes exhausting. For men, it was social anxiety and mental preparation, many men even now apply acne to hide it.
For women, the amount of products for full coverage creates an insane process that requires a lot of preparation to put on a “going out face”. Both men and women said they feel prisoner to their acne, and not in control of their lives. The efforts just to feel comfortable enough to go out of the house made it difficult for them to be spontaneous or attend last minute social gatherings.
For teenagers suffering with acne, I found many parents to be very supportive in helping them feel good about themselves. Their parents supported them emotionally while spending hundreds, if not thousands on solutions to help them find relief from “puberty” acne.
What was alarming was the parents who said “ its just puberty, it will pass”. While, I don’t necessarily disagree, being a teenager today is really hard.
Teenagers got three types of bullies they have to deal with every single day, the online, the offline, and the online and offline. These kids suck, and they make it hell for kids to be themselves.
My advice to you is, do more. If you can’t financially help them, understand what they are going through emotionally and help them work through it. Don’t brush off problems that can actually lower their confidence and self-esteem to the point of deep depression and self hatred. They need you.
The biggest issue I see from everyone, adult or teenage, is the lack of commitment. We have allowed ourselves to become so obsessed that we set unreasonable expectations of products. No product is going to work overnight. Being anxious to see results causes us to make decisions that could be more harmful to our skin. This anxiety also comes from the failed attempts of finding something that works. None the less, give it a shot, you already bought it.
You are obviously committed to trying products that fight acne, because you keep buying them. So be committed to the time it takes to work and stop throwing money down the drain.
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